No one knows who wrote this thought-provoking list, which has been around for years and years, but we wanted to share it with you. Here are the ten rules for being a human being.   WOMEN - ORNATE, BEJEWELLED.

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works.”

4. A lesson is repeated until learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you may go to the next lesson.

5. Learning does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6. “There” is no better than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7. Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9. Your answers lie inside you. The answers to life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10. You will forget all of this.

– Unknown





More than 30 years ago, a teenager named Jadav “Molai” Payeng began planting seeds along a barren sandbar near his birthplace in India’s Assam region, the Asian Age reports.

It was 1979 and floods had washed a great number of snakes onto the sandbar. When Payeng — then only 16 — found them, they had all died.

“The snakes died in the heat, without any tree cover. I sat down and wept over their lifeless forms,” Payeng told the Times Of India.

“It was carnage. I alerted the forest department and asked them if they could grow trees there. They said nothing would grow there. Instead, they asked me to try growing bamboo. It was painful, but I did it. There was nobody to help me,” he told the newspaper.

Now that once-barren sandbar is a sprawling 1,360 acre forest, home to several thousands of varieties of trees and an astounding diversity of wildlife — including birds, deer, apes, rhino, elephants and even tigers.

The forest, aptly called the “Molai woods” after its creator’s nickname, was single-handedly planted and cultivated by one man — Payeng, who is now 47.

According to the Asian Age, Payeng has dedicated his life to the upkeep and growth of the forest. Accepting a life of isolation, he started living alone on the sandbar as a teenager — spending his days tending the burgeoning plants.

Today, Payeng still lives in the forest. He shares a small hut with his wife and three children and makes a living selling cow and buffalo milk, reports.

According to the Assistant Conservator of Forests, Gunin Saikia, it is perhaps the world’s biggest forest in the middle of a river.

“We were surprised to find such a dense forest on the sandbar,” Saikia told the Times Of India, adding that officials in the region only learned of Payeng’s forest in 2008.

Finally, Payeng may get the help — and recognition — he deserves.

“Locals wanted to cut down the forest, but Payeng dared them to kill him instead. He treats the trees and animals like his own children. Seeing this, we, too, decided to pitch in,” Saikia said.

A DOG’S PURPOSE? (from a 6-year-old).


Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog’s owners, Ron, his wife Lisa , and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn’t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.

As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.

The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker ‘s family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.

The little boy seemed to accept Belker’s transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker’s Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, ”I know why.”

Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I’d never heard a more comforting explanation. It has changed the way I try and live.

He said,”People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?” The Six-year-old continued,

”Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long.”

Live simply.

Love generously.

Care deeply.

Speak kindly.

Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.

Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure Ecstasy.

Take naps.

Stretch before rising.

Run, romp, and play daily.

Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.

On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.

On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.

When you’re happy, dance around and wag your entire body.

Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.

Be loyal.

Never pretend to be something you’re not.

If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently.


It’s interesting how each time I am close to writing a column, a small idea, subject or insight simply pops up, and ends up being rather more closely scrutinised for a wider audience. Just the other day a friend was faced with the choice of doing something, or having to do it.

It seems such a minor thing, but really, there is such a huge difference that even life and death would not be an exaggeration! There are several ways of looking at this, but the energetic viewpoint takes priority. To use a familiar quote of mine, “The metaphysical always precedes the physical.” To choose to do something carries a very different energy from having to do it. In many ways it boils down to either you choose to do it, or you are forced to do it. To choose to do something is a response to life, but if you are forced to do it, there will be a reaction within you.

Choosing and responding come from the moment and are in harmony with life. Choosing creates a positive responsive factor, invoking willingness and enthusiasm, so that whatever it is that you are doing will go easily and well. You create a willing focus that sees a job to be done. From an energetic level, everything will flow in your favour, both physically and mentally, even emotionally, and with this inner harmony you will have insights into how to perform a difficult task, or a smooth efficiency if the task is more familiar.

Being forced to perform a task suggests an initial unwillingness, a dislike of whatever it is. This creates an energy blockage, manifesting as obstacles and difficulty. As things go ‘wrong’ with the task, so the inner reaction gets stronger, often resulting in anger. Reaction comes from the negativity of your past, from old patterns of procrastination, of reluctance, of fear and prejudices. With an invoked energy of reluctance, just like Murphy’s Law, everything that can go wrong will go wrong at the worst possible moment. And like the proverbial Murphy, you will blame everything and everybody. . . except yourself!

On an energetic level it becomes obvious that as energetic Beings we are responsible for the field of energy in which we live and operate in our physical reality. It should, therefore, be glaringly obvious that our preoccupation with blame is as ridiculous as it is pointless. Let’s say that because of a certain inner reluctance to do something, you have been putting it off for days, even weeks.

Throughout the period of delay and procrastination, inadvertently you are creating an ever-growing field of resistant energy, meaning your own energy creation will resist every effort in your life for smooth running and well-being. We call this ‘a run of bad luck!’ By the time it finally reaches the point of having to do the despised or dreaded task, you will have created maximum resistance and the greatest opportunity for error or failure.

This scenario fits snugly in the seldom understood new age expression, “We each create our own reality.” Intellectually we know that creation is wholistic, but seldom do we understand the full import of this. The truth is we are involved in the creation of our reality on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level, all simultaneously, in every moment of our lives. Choosing to or having to is a very powerful factor in all this. Quite apart from the ambiguity of our overall life – which is seldom easy for a person who has no insight into the nature of energy to grasp – there is the far more obvious health indicator of inner discord.

Illness is always due to a disturbance in our consciousness. For most people this disturbance is from our daily resistance to the many levels of life. For a more spiritually enlightened person this illness can be the outworking of an old karmic pattern that the person has no intellectual knowledge of. Such a person will use the illness creatively to heal the disturbance from the past by not opposing the illness, but rather by allowing it to fully express and thus release its old pattern of energetic disturbance. And if, to reach a successful outcome, this means death of the physical body, this is an acceptable outcome. Usually, within this greater embrace of life, a so-called healing takes place.

Suppose a person (and this is common) lives much of their life from the ‘having to do’ energy, as opposed to willingly choosing to perform all the many pleasant and not so pleasant tasks of daily life. Sadly, many people grow up this way, following the energetic patterns of their parents . . . indeed, it is difficult not to do this! This inner resistance to life usually results in illness, based in sheer inner-weariness. People who live this way do not enjoy life, seeing life as a burden to be endured rather than a joy to be lived. Do you see what I am saying? Either you choose to live life joyfully, or by default you have to live life because you are in it. Do you see how great the difference is, how hugely it affects the quality and outcome of your life?

Inner-weariness is a self-created field of negative energy that has a huge emotional effect on you. Prolonged emotional discord will eventually manifest as severe physical disturbance. One of the most common of these is cancer. Have you ever wondered why a cancer cure is always described as remission, not cure? Whatever the official reason may be, the reality is simple; if cancer invokes such a change in your consciousness that you cast out the old pattern of mental and emotional discord that created cancer, then, if the physical damage is not too great, you can be permanently cured, healed. The old paradigm will be finished, and you can enter new parameters of life and living.

All too often your body responds to the physical treatment and the cancer cells are killed off, and the body goes into remission. The effect of physical discord has been treated and healed, but the cause of inner discord remains untouched, untreated. Usually remission lasts for as long as it takes the old pattern of inner discord to reassert itself in the person’s life. ‘Having to’ is a seldom realised factor within human health. A constant willingness as opposed to a constant reluctance is so easily overlooked in matters of health. Even a willingness to do the pleasant tasks, with a reluctance for all others, can lead to an eventual breakdown in health. Life is an every-moment occupation, not a pick and choose your moments of willing participation.

You can, of course, indulge in the more obvious pick and choose. You can choose to read this, look at your life, and make intelligent changes for your own well-being. Equally, you can choose to read this, dismiss it and do nothing. You and I are making such choices moment by moment, mostly without a true conscious focus. When you willingly embrace life, choosing to do what needs to be done, you are making subconscious choices that complement and support your overall health and well-being. If you are a having to do it type of person, you also are making the subconscious choices of inner resistance and reluctance, creating the emotional discord which always accompanies such subconscious rumblings.

It is not that we are difficult and complex Beings, quite the contrary, we are holistic and fully involved Beings on a voyage of discovery and creation.

If there is any problem at all in this, it is our lack of awareness in the fact that every moment of our lives we are creating every moment of our lives.





People are experts at turning themselves into chronic worriers—and often without knowing they’re doing it. The problem is that when you’ve turned yourself into a chronic worrier, it’s then very difficult to become a nonworrier again! So why not try to identify those patterns of behaviour that are likely to contribute to making you a chronic worrier, become aware of them, and then try to manage those activities?

Here are five factors that are likely to contribute to you developing unmanageable worrying. If you identify with any of these characteristics, then maybe it’s time to think about ways to change, and there are some more tips for dealing with chronic worrying in this earlier post.

1.         Reduce Your Stressful Lifestyle. Are you working long hours, dealing with demanding work colleagues, having difficulty with close relationships, or experiencing financial problems? Stressis a big contributor to worrying. It not only provides you with things to worry about, but stress makes you think negatively, focus on bad things happening, and when you start to worry, stress makes it more difficult for you to stop. To make life a bit less stressful, try to lift your mood. Some examples of how to do this are provided here and here.

2.         Curb Your Perfectionist Tendencies. Many people are very proud to call themselves perfectionists—they believe they can be relied upon to do any job as well as it possibly can be! But sadly, that’s also true about worrying. If you’re a perfectionist, you’ll want to think through a worry until you’ve exhausted all the possible problems and come up with the perfect solution to every possibility. Your standards will be so high that you’ll also be dissatisfied with solutions that many other people would find acceptable—so that just subjects you to even more worrying!  You can find some ideas to help you curb unnecessary perfectionism hereand here

3.         Don’t Kid Yourself That Your Worrying is Effective. Probably up to 80% of the things people worry about are never likely to happen. So every time you worry about a possible bad thing happening and it doesn’t, don’t kid yourself that it was your worrying that prevented it happening. That is what we call superstitious thinking! If you do keep kidding yourself that your worry always prevents bad things happening you will find yourself needing to worry every time you are faced with a possible problem—worry simply becomes an uncontrollable compulsion.

4.         Don’t Feel Responsible for Bad Things Happening. Many people come to believe that they are in some way responsible for bad things happening and that they alone have the power and wherewithal to prevent bad things happening. This feeling of ‘responsibility’ is something that drives worrying—and the worst kind of worrying at that. It drives people to try and predict every possible calamity that might occur (good old “what if….?” worrying), and then to try and work out the best solution to every potential calamity! That’s a lot of worrying. Feeling responsible for almost everything in this way is one of the central features ofobsessive-compulsive disorder, and very closely related to these feelings of responsibility is the feeling of ‘guilt’. It is just a small step from feeling responsible for bad things happening to believing you have a moralobligation to prevent such things happening. That’s a heavy and unnecessary  cross to bear. Here are some tips to help you manage feelings of responsibility and guilt.

5.         Don’t make mountains out of molehills. One of the most crippling forms of worry is known as ‘catastrophizing’. It may seem sensible to try and think through all the possible implications of a problem—but not if you merely make it seem so much worse than it did when you started! If you are someone who lacks a bit of confidence in you own abilities to deal effectively with problems, then you are just the sort of person who is going to catastrophise your problems and make them into insurmountable mountains! If you feel you might be prone to catastrophizing then you can begin by lifting your mood and trying to learn some new ways of thinking about problems.